tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post4666736965889396101..comments2023-06-21T04:23:41.948-07:00Comments on Psychology of Selfishness: Faulty common beliefsIfat Glassmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12031194581611104146noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-78672223863277286852010-02-02T15:17:52.104-08:002010-02-02T15:17:52.104-08:00"women like men who pursue their own pleasure..."women like men who pursue their own pleasure and pursue it confidently and openly."<br /><br />I hold this to be true because subconsciously people still realize that to be able to support one's life one must be selfish - seeking one's own interest, and not those of others (not primarily). <br />As a result, even though a lot of people hold altruism as a virtue consciously, they look up to heroes like Bruce Willis in Die hard or Clint Eastwood in "Dirty Harry" or the character of Tony stark in "Iron man" who have self-confidence and pursue their own values. <br />Look at fantasy art and video games - have you ever seen a hero walking bent over and apologizing? No, the heroes are always confident and they go after their goals. <br /><br />Subconsciously people do realize that not being a sucker is important for living and most subconsciously adopts it as a value to some extent.<br />However, there are hippies out there who defy all logic and they see it as a virtue to be willing to be a sponge. But even such people would feel admiration for "one of their own" when they stand up to others. <br />Total escape from reality (except insanity or death) is not possible. <br /><br />As a result, a lot of women are attracted to the "bad boys" because they are selfish (maybe not in the best way, but it sure beats those who try to suck up to a woman and say anything just to be liked). Subconsciously, they realize that to be alive and to be happy one must reject the chains of altruism. I am yet to see a woman who drools over a man of weak character who is willing to do everything to please her. <br />Some may think it is "sweet" but there will never be any sexual attraction in a situation like that.Ifat Glassmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12031194581611104146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-23321348115810580892010-02-02T09:00:27.098-08:002010-02-02T09:00:27.098-08:00I agree almost entirely. Except for the generaliza...I agree almost entirely. Except for the generalization contained in this statement: <i>"women like<br />men who pursue their own pleasure and pursue it confidently and openly."</i><br />Of course, in your previous sentence you have qualified it with 'decent', but then the issue would be what proportion of women would be decent?<br /><br />Please, do not think I am talking of this from a gender-difference perspective, but one thing I have observed in life is that people are different from each other. What the reasons for those differences is are, is something I have been curious about, but the fact remains that differences exist.<br /><br />My way of looking at would be that a person 'A' (male or female) who does not mind choosing to love a person 'B' who wants to assert their dominance by having others suck up to them, deserves to be with such a person (who seeks servility). Whether the perception that person B (or a particular gender) actually seeks servility or not is a different issue.Ketanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02622410643454108685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-46639686289336524722009-12-27T00:16:54.075-08:002009-12-27T00:16:54.075-08:00"I try my best to teach it to my little broth..."I try my best to teach it to my little brothers, but it is hard to get such message across in a culture that considers momentary emotions rather than long term devotion to a purpose an ideal."<br /><br />I understand this quite well. I've had similar troubles with my two nieces. Well due to their ages (they are still very young) I have had to limit what I try to tell them so as not to confuse them, but I have had such issues trying to teach them some rational things.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00684917720731001010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-91040526980292528682009-12-03T06:33:30.534-08:002009-12-03T06:33:30.534-08:00Thanks you.. Yes, it is my idea. The way I discove...Thanks you.. Yes, it is my idea. The way I discovered it was by examining my own feelings and thought regarding past relationships (like if I thought someone was X before I knew them very well and turns out they were Y).Ifat Glassmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12031194581611104146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-84265644533056786082009-12-02T20:24:38.760-08:002009-12-02T20:24:38.760-08:00In regards to your idea about promiscuity operatin...In regards to your idea about promiscuity operating on projection, is that your own theory? It seems very astute to me.<br /><br />Thanks for the post.<br /><br />~JasonJason Stottshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10662280558130908744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-72357916328814225502009-09-29T04:01:06.206-07:002009-09-29T04:01:06.206-07:00I try my best to teach it to my little brothers, b...I try my best to teach it to my little brothers, but it is hard to get such message across in a culture that considers momentary emotions rather than long term devotion to a purpose an ideal. <br /><br />A career one devotes oneself to requires thinking. A playboy's life does not. It is thinking that kids learn to find painful and boring in today's education. <br />Productivity is simply not considered an ideal in school, so kids are not exposed to any of the great producers and scientists that succeeded big time, and they do not get to see how inspirational it is.Ifat Glassmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12031194581611104146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-16151553489462775392009-09-28T17:49:55.273-07:002009-09-28T17:49:55.273-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Ifat Glassmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12031194581611104146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-7086869804350115402009-09-28T03:16:58.602-07:002009-09-28T03:16:58.602-07:00relly like the article esp the point about you nee...relly like the article esp the point about you need a sense of purpose to get through life. when will people start realising that?!Goddess of Nonsensehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17261476718141691235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-14941903862162220232009-09-26T19:03:23.094-07:002009-09-26T19:03:23.094-07:00Thanks. I might do more like this when I come acro...Thanks. I might do more like this when I come across more such beliefs.Ifat Glassmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12031194581611104146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273907196263888854.post-68457310155404631382009-09-26T07:24:15.945-07:002009-09-26T07:24:15.945-07:00This one is really useful article. I agree with ea...This one is really useful article. I agree with each one of your clarifications on those beliefs. Some of them I already thought myself, while others are enlightening for me.Darshan Chandehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10721030762177780619noreply@blogger.com